PREGNANT / NOT PREGNANT

My boyfriend has decided to cover the cost for me to redo my breast implants. They are nearly 15 years old and in need of some attention. The left one has become dislodged, and the right one is experiencing a capsular contracture, which occurs when the body forms a hard capsule around the implant. While these issues aren't ideal, they can be addressed relatively easily. The implants need to be removed and replaced as soon as possible.

However, there has been tension between my boyfriend and me regarding an engagement ring. He proposed last August but didn’t have the funds for a ring at the time. Once winter arrived and he did have the money, he chose not to purchase it. He seemed to believe that funding my breast implant revision would placate me as it was significantly less expensive than the ring.

The night before my scheduled surgery, I took a pregnancy test, and all four came back positive. It is illegal to undergo elective surgery when pregnant. After waiting five long years to finally have my implants redone, I'm faced with the reality that I can’t proceed.

It's remarkable how this situation feels both like a blessing and a curse. We had been trying for a baby, but I would feel more secure in this journey if we were married—if he had actually followed through on his engagement. I find myself questioning why he continues to manipulate the situation. Is anyone else experiencing something similar?